This Friendship day make a New start at work:
Very few would dispute the power that true friendship has to enrich our lives. But what role should friendship play at workplace? Is it better and smarter to keep your personal and professional lives separate or friendship at workplace makes it easier for us to survive?
No, we don’t need a friend at work nor do we need snoots with chin up attitude. Both are extremes which result in either complacency or uncalled rivalry.
So where do we stop? Your colleague should know you personally but only enough to accentuate your personality traits and gain positive momentum through it at work. You should have your colleague’s back covered as a team but not his butt like a mother Hen.
Office/Work relationships have a strong bearing on job satisfaction, and it’s always useful to have someone in your corner to confer with when your work life hits a rough patch. But the other well-known reality is that too many social relationships around the office can stop you from getting much done. So, how do we demark and define this relationship?
A new theory suggests make a “Frolleague”.
These five simple habits can help you build and sustain great working relationships, without having to befriend every single person at work:
1. EXPRESS GRATITUDE
If your coworker has clearly put in extra work on a project or done something well, taking a few seconds to acknowledge their effort can go a long way. It’s as simple as dashing off a quick email or slack message to share a sincere compliment like, “Thank you for your extra efforts on this project. It’s great!” That can make the difference between your colleagues feeling amazing about their efforts versus feeling unacknowledged and unappreciated.
Show your appreciation face-to-face as well. In one-on-one meetings, or even just a casual run-in outside the office, remember to thank someone for an assignment they completed particularly well. Earn a Frolleague, be a frolleague!
2. MAKE TIME -TEAM TIME
Meeting calendars can get out of control, and it can be tempting, sometimes imperative to reschedule your appointments on short notice, especially with your direct reports. But when you consistently de-prioritize meeting with them, you’re basically telling them that that one-on-one time isn’t important to you. As a result, when something important to you comes up that you need them to put in extra efforts, their minds may jump to, “Hmm…oh, lets see.”
The opposite can also be true, though. If you consistently invest time in your frolleagues by honouring and showing via your actions that they’re a priority, then when you ask for something extra, they’re more likely to reply, “I’d be happy to” (and mean it). Offering your time and attention to your coworkers and direct reports doesn’t mean becoming close personal friends with them, but it’s a crucial way to show they matter and that they can rely on you. But clearly this is not about the give & take. This is all about a Team Time where ideas, issues and irritations are shared amongst a Team from a Frolleague to a frolleague not a Manager to subordinates.
Everyone has times when they feel particularly vulnerable at work. Perhaps it’s at the start of a new project when the project plan needs definition, maybe it’s when a major issue comes up halfway through, or maybe just bad days back home. Anticipate, understand and fill in when a task or project they’ve been working upon might be turning a corner, and offer support whenever you can. Being friends with your coworkers isn’t the only way to know when those moments arise; you don’t need to be chatting regularly over lunch each day to know when your colleagues might be able to use a hand. Just pay attention to the rhythm of your own work and the big initiatives your whole team or department is tackling, and use that as a prompt to reach out.
4. REMEMBER MILESTONES- THIER MILESTONES!
People like to feel like they’re noticed and remembered. One simple thing you can do is to put a recurring annual reminder on your calendar for your frolleague’s achievements in the office. They do not need you to remember their birthday, they have families and friends for that; the trick is to remember their achievements at work however small or big. A frolleague needs to be recognised for his/her achievements and inputs as a professional and not for something their parents planned out (pun intended). Remember a work anniversary, a promotion date and so on, so you can tell people you appreciate the time they’ve given to the company since they joined your team. And hey, do remember birthdays too; that’s extra bonus 😉
5. JUST BE PRESENT
Finally, when you’re spending time with someone, just be all there, even if it’s no more than a 90 second interaction. If at all possible, stay off your phone or computer when you interact with others. Be an emotionally intelligent listener. Make eye contact and express–either verbally or nonverbally–that you’re genuinely glad to be able to chat. And if you’re in the middle of something when coworker swings by your desk, don’t sneer passive-aggressively and have the conversation anyway; be a Frolleague, leave what you doing or request span of time.
These five strategies are simply ways to make thoughtfulness into a regular habit. They might only take a few seconds, but they’re essential for cultivating strong relationships with your colleagues.
Yes, you may need one or few friends around the office but you definitely need Frolleagues.
So go ahead this friendship day make a “Frolleague”…always remember, it’s never too late to start 🙂
–Team Smart Tips